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"Elin does not want to go to the Masters and is preparing for a trip to see her family and friends in Sweden," a source close to Nordegren told People. "She is also being asked by Tiger to attend the Masters, even if for a half day, to look like she is interested in supporting his return to golf. But she would rather not be there."
The Daily Mirror is pushing the issue even more, stating that Elin doesn't want Tiger to return to golf at all, at least not right now. The publication is stating that she is so angry that Tiger is returning that she went to see divorce lawyers the day after he made his announcement. The article also states that anonymous friends of Elin claim that she feels Tiger is not putting his family first as he once promised the world he'd do, and that she has taken the children to live with a friend.
Call me a cynic, but none of this surprises me one bit. Tiger Woods' first and primary love is the game of golf. No wife, porn star, mistress or cocktail waitress is ever going to change that. Tiger wants to dominate the sport he has dreamed about since he was a child, and he is only a few years away from his lifelong objective of breaking the "untouchable" record of 18 major championships, set by the great Jack Nicklaus.
If it is the case that Tiger's wife feels that Woods is not putting his family first, the truth is that Tiger is the one to blame for much of his predicament. Yes, he cheated, and yes he misled his wife, but the reality is that Tiger should probably have never gotten married at such a young age. A highly ambitious man who commits so many hours per day to such a single-minded objective needs to complete some of his goals before settling down. Michael Jordan (another man who had a few affairs before his divorce) repeatedly speaks of how he was incredibly selfish when his children were growing up, and he too should never have gotten married so young.
But the drug of love is strong and makes us all a bit irrational. Since when did any of us make logical decisions while sitting in a cloud of romance and affection? My point exactly.
Dr. Boyce Watkins is the founder of the Your Black World Coalition and the author of the new book, 'Black American Money.' To have Dr. Boyce commentary delivered to your e-mail, please click here. 
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By: Marsha on 3/29/2010 10:56PM
Dr. Watkins,
I think you made a very wise decision when you decided not to marry. Having said that, I don't believe that Elin should be made to look like the unreasonable one here. Look, none of us really knows what went on between Tiger and his wife. But I really can't see how anyone would deserve to be made a spectacle of the way he did his woman and his marriage. Tiger is not a teenager!! Yes he may have been too young to marry, but I believe he was well aware of what he was getting into!! I also believe that he knew adding "family man" to his squeaky clean image would not hurt his endorsements. I think he said it best himself: he felt entitled!! And if he really thinks as you do, that golf is his first love, then just let the lady go, and marry golf. To think that this woamn is anywhere near ready to sit and play the dutiful "stand by your man" wife is delusional. He took his time to lay low, so let her take hers. I wish both Tiger and Elin the best, but if he is really asking her to do this he has alot more to learn about being unselfish. Perhaps he should learn that being single again??
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By: ADMR on 3/29/2010 11:14PM
Elin has not Accepted His Homosexuality - her Decision.
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By: ooozzzzz on 3/30/2010 12:32AM
Quote: "Tiger Woods' first and primary love is the game of golf. No wife, porn star, mistress or cocktail waitress is ever going to change that. Tiger wants to dominate the sport he has dreamed about since he was a child, and he is only a few years away from his lifelong objective of breaking the "untouchable" record of 18 major championships, set by the great Jack Nicklaus".
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Dr. Watkins, that statement is right on point and no one or anything will get in the way of Tiger and his lifelong quest to be, without argument, the best golfer to ever play the game.
His entire life focus and concentration, despite the myraid of White skanks he cheated on his wife with that derailed his marriage to Elin will at this point, slow him down but once he regroups and gets his swagger back, he will be dominate again.
Women like Elin, who I feel was also the victim of martial abuse in this case (but not guilty of dometic abuse in this drama) and by all means, a "quiet and reserved" gold digger & opportunist in her own right who, by the stroke of luck, just happened to be in the right place at the right time (a nanny for one of Tiger's pro golfer buddies) who introduced her to Tiger Woods.
And the real question is, why would Tiger Woods, a man who has a varied & high sexual appetite for wild, loose & "anything goes" women, marry Elin and have a family? He could have remained single, totally hang out there in the streets and he would be considered a "major player" in the eyes of his adoring fans & the public but profesionally and for the long term, it's not good for the business of "Tiger Inc." anddoes not translate into major endorsement dollars. IMO, he did it for the sake of his golf career and not for the love for Elin.
Elin was just a planned financial investment.
Marriage to a famed sports superstar equated to Tiger's professional golf demeanor; a professional & squeaky clean imagery, shows stability, exhibits core family man values and ensured that his "family friendly" golf fans will buy the products he endorsed by the multi-millions and stuff the coffers of his endorsers and Tiger's bank account.
Also, you have to remember that being married and having children ensures that your taxes paid to Uncle Sam will be a lot less as opposed to being single in the high tax bracket that Tiger lives in. All pro athletes do it because getting married and having kids save you a hell of a lot of money.
Rich people do it all the time and when it comes to either the love of the game they sweat, bleed and die for 24/7, and it's multi-millions/billions or the wife, the game & the money wins out everytime.
And just like clockwork, someone messes up, a divorce occurs and the woman walks away a millionaire.
Just think of all the rich women who got rich by marrying and divorcing rich men in all aspects of professional life. The list is long.
The ex-wives of Michael Jordan, Donald Trump (multiple times) Paul McCarthy, Shaq, Russell Simmons, Nas etc and all these women "play the victim role" and after the divorce, will try and make you believe that they made those millions through their own professional business efforts but to speak on their plans, their "efforts" were also of the "sweat variety" but not on the court of sports play or the corporate boardroom: but in their case, an investment in a mattress and strong/stable bed posts was heavily involved in their "business" dealings.
Systematically, They do it (knowingly) marry these men, get pregeant, drop babies, spend the alloted time married to these men to qualify for divorce, and ride the train until he messes up then decided to get off. And to be fair, even men marrry rich women and do the same.
So Elin did not go into this marriage with Tiger as the blind innocent victim an she knew what she as getting into and she also knew that at any point in the marriage that shecould get a divorce and walk away with at least 500 million in which she still might do.
So her not being at the Masters? So what? When she's ready, she will get the divorce, get the multi-millions, write a book, get labeled the "strong & courageous" woman and do the live, on camera Morning shows/Oprah/Barbara Walters talk-show circuits for all to see, sounding remorseful, damaged & crying ("I felt dirty and used") with all the Kleenex Tissues and crying women fans that she needs.
Then it's "redo Elin's make-up" time and on to the chaeuffer driven next stop on the talk-show circuit.
And for Tiger? He gets it together, continues on his path and becomes the greatest golfer who ever lived.
So in the end, everybody gets what they wanted from the very beginning and life goes on.
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By: iceman on 3/30/2010 9:57AM
Dr. Watkins,
Every man and woman has a right to be married and have a family, regardless of their ambitions and goals. In this case, she married Tiger knowing that golf is his firrst love. Therefore, she already knows that the expectations and demands of being the wife of a celebrity athlete. Just like any other spouse of an pro athlete, a soldier who serves our country, a police officer, doctor, lawyer, or celebrity singer or musician in a popular band, there are things that spouses must accept and understand about the nature of that lifestyle, regarding the percentage of travel, the fame, the media, the dangers, and yes..the groupies, which he messed up and deserved all of the consequences.
As far as Elin giving him an ultimatum about his FIRST LOVE, GOLF...then she knew what she was getting into in the first place and should go back to showing her on-going support, which she signed up for when they got married. If she didn't show that she can be there for him and understand the game, (not to accept the cheating), then she would probably still be his "nanny" or working somewhere else for billions less! She should stay home be the supporting wife while he goies out continue to MAKE THAT MONEY!
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By: iceman on 3/30/2010 10:01AM
Dr. Watkins,
Every man and woman has a right to be married and have a family, regardless of their ambitions and goals. In this case, she married Tiger knowing that golf is his first love. Therefore, she already knows that the expectations and demands of being the wife of a celebrity athlete are very challenging. Just like any other spouse of a pro athlete, a soldier who serves our country, a police officer, doctor, lawyer, or celebrity singer or musician in a popular band, there are things that spouses must accept and understand about the nature of that lifestyle, regarding the percentage of travel, the fame, the media, the dangers, and yes..the groupies, which he messed up and deserved all of the consequences.
As far as Elin giving him an ultimatum about his FIRST LOVE, GOLF...then she knew what she was getting into in the first place and should go back to showing her on-going support, which she signed up for when they got married. If she didn't show Tiger in the beginning when she was just a nanny and his girlfriend that she can be there for him and understand the game, (not to accept the cheating), then she would probably still be his "nanny" or working somewhere else for billions less! She should stay home to be the supporting wife as she initially did while he goes out to continue to MAKE THAT MONEY!
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By: Ed on 3/30/2010 6:43PM
We know Tiger did wrong, hell he knows it, it's an ugly thing when money is the issue. If she divorces him, she should be entitle to some money but come on 500 million. Americans live with way less. Here is a man making tons of money pulling his weight as the provider, is she really pulling hers!!!! does she clean house, takes care of here kids, cooks for her family like everyday mommies?? our is it the cook,butler,maid,nanny,driver.
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By: Chars on 3/30/2010 10:29AM
Why are we still on Tiger? The man should give her whats in the pre marriage agreement and let her go. If it was not for him she would still be an uneducated nanny. Did not complete college ,or modeling hey a dumb white chick you guys made a satr because of a Black man.She has done nothing to have the wealth she has.Give her 5 million and in 8 years she will lose it all as uneducated as she is.
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By: Carmen on 3/30/2010 4:00PM
Tiger has said that he married Elin because he loved her with everything he have(his own words). Tiger has pleaded and begged Elin not to leave him because he loves her. Elin married Tiger because she loves him. Elin is still with Tiger after his savage betrayal because she loves him. No one can change that.Therefore, People should let Tiger and Elin decide what they want to do with their life.
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By: John on 3/30/2010 5:02PM
Give her 5 million? Surely you jest.
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