By Ericka Blount Danois on May 20th 2010 10:13AM
Filed under: Football
I have always been confused, incredulous and disgusted by the whole groupie phenomenon -- and still am. I don't understand why women would literally wait outside of hotel rooms, locker rooms, houses, etc., just to sleep with a rich and famous athlete or celebrity. But I am a bit of a square, so maybe I'm missing something.
What's even more interesting is that the athletes actually have a system for luring these groupies. ESPN the Magazine has a feature called 'Postcards From the Edge.' In it, pro-athletes provide anecdotes from their lives.
In the latest issue, which hits newsstands Friday, Chiefs receiver Dwayne Bowe (pictured above) talks about this "system":
"My rookie year, we were playing in San Diego," Bowe says. "You hear stories about groupies hanging out in hotel lobbies, but some of my teammates had it set up so there was a girl in every room. The older guys get on MySpace and Facebook a week before we go to a city; when a pretty one writes back, they arrange to fly her in three or four days in advance. They call it importing."
(There are harsher terms I can think of, i.e., prostitution and human trafficking, but again, I'm a square.)
"Younger guys don't have the money to do it," Bowe added. "Anyway, these girls had the whole top floor. They know everything about us -- first and last names, sisters and brothers, salary. This one girl was talking to me like she'd known me for years. 'Hey, D-Bowe, how's Grandma?' I'm like, 'How do you know my grandma?' She knew that I talk about her every time I'm interviewed for a story."
"I told her I had a girlfriend, but she didn't care. She was wearing my jersey, sitting in my lap, making it look like we knew each other. Then she took a picture and put it on Facebook. That almost got me in trouble."
Er, I think you're in trouble now, you big dummy!
Can someone help us understand the allure of degrading yourself and waiting outside of hotel rooms to be with famous athletes or celebrities? Do the athletes or the women think about the possibility of AIDS or STDs these days? Just sayin'.
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By: Oronde Amir on 5/20/2010 10:31AM
The Allure my brutha is pure conquest. Due to living in a male driven world, our women, whether they are white or black, understand the art of conquest even better than we do. They have always known their power, we remind them of it every day. To hold a man's future in your hands is the ultimate sign of conquest is it not? These women are not sleeping with these men just to sleep with them, they are sleeping with the power that that man represents, i.e money and fame. That's just my uneducated opinion.
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By: dyann on 5/20/2010 10:33AM
I often wonder if they think of STD's & Aids, just think what Tiger & Jessie exposed thier wives to.
It also sets a bad example for our youth...
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By: David on 5/20/2010 11:40AM
Most of these black brothers end up broke due to this type of lifestyle. They think they're using these women but in the end they are the ones who's getting f*cked.
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By: Bushwick Corwin on 5/20/2010 11:56AM
It's that insyany 'Baller' status . Only folk with money are placed on a throne like that . Coming from minimal means to power status is very tempting to anyone . We all love nice pretty things . So pretty women are no different . Look at basketball wives . Where were those women before they married or had kids by their ballers ? On that show . you can tell they only shop in boutiques that serve alcohol ? What's that about ?
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By: tdw2010 on 5/20/2010 11:59AM
Unfortunately, this is a perk that comes with being a professional athlete, or any type of job that generates any type of wealth. If you really take a good look, most of these men have never had these types of opportunites (let's face it, most of these guys are not real lookers, i.e. Rodman, O'neal, etc.) until they made a name for themselves or signed big contracts. Money + fame + power = women. So, now a man in this position now knows that he only needs to be as faithful as his options if he's in a "committed" relationship. As a woman, I can understand the allure, what I don't understand is why many of these men bother with "relationships", why not stay single and mingle. Because once the money and/or fame runs out so will the women. Much less drama....
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By: ((( HiRoader ))) on 5/20/2010 1:10PM
These fools seriously need to learn from the "women" athletes & celebrities tie themselves up with "marriages".... Or at least marry a woman who has established her own livelihood....
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By: Fashionedbygod33 on 5/21/2010 4:17PM
Yuck, maybe its' me but it's just not that serious. I just don't get the groupie thing. These men are tramps and so are the women.
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By: Blk_iCE77 on 5/21/2010 4:50PM
Most of these monkeys wouldn't be given the time of day if it wasn't for the loot. The shallow women going after those clowns have no one to blame but themselves when they get "play'd"...
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By: ADRIAN HARRIS OF SOUTH GEORGIA. GO!!!! GRAMBLING STATE UNIVEFSITY!!!!! GO!!!! on 5/22/2010 5:27AM
THANK YOU GOD!!!! MASCULINE SALUTATIONS!!! TO YOU ALMIGHTY FATHER!!! READ IN A POST THAT 80% OF NFL ATHLETES FILE FOR BANKRUPTCY AFTER 2 YEARS OF RETIREMENT. 60% OF NBA PLAYERS FILE FOR BANKRUPTCY AFTER 5 YEARS OF RETIREMENT. MOREOVER; THE WRITER SAID THAT THE CULPRITS BIRTHING THESE STATS WERE (1)TO MANY HUM-VE'S (2)TO MANY HOUSES (3) INADEQUATE FINACIAL EDUCATION (4)BAD BUSINESS DECISIONS (5) TO MANY "HOES". NUFF SAID I THINK. GOD'S GOING TO LOVE YOU ANYWAY!!! BYE!!!
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By: Aint no money in the world worth my puzzi on 5/24/2010 10:51PM
Just plain nasty and disgusting groupie is not the word more like w horing and whor male pimps. These are diease carriers who wants nasty azz men who just f uck anything that allows them to.
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